Celebrating Our 38th Non-Anniversary

     It dawned on me that my wife and I were 38 years ahead of our time, on the issue of knowing what was a "true marriage"!   On July 22, 1977 Theresa and I celebrate the 38th year of not being truly married.  My future wife (at the time) and I decided to obtain a "civil union" which the government called "marriage" on the paperwork.  We did this so that we could begin getting the additional pay (with housing and food allowance) and I could set up our living quarters prior to our Catholic Marriage and living together as husband and wife.
      The application for a "Marriage Licence" was filed on July 15, 1977.   I remember that it seemed silly to me because the government pretended it was giving you "permission" with a license to "live together".   In fact I was aware that many peers my age were already "shacking up" without a "license" or even a "civil union marriage".  We obtained blood tests, paid the fees as required and then submitted this paperwork:
     On July 22, 1977 we returned to the courthouse and had a probate judge perform a "civil marriage".  We did not go on a honeymoon.  We did not sleep together and in fact we did not consummate this "civil marriage" which we never considered to be a real marriage.  We understood true marriage to be a physical and spiritual bond requiring a sacramental blessing in a Catholic Church.

     Theresa went to Connecticut on a bus a couple of weeks later, where she prepared for what we considered to be our real marriage.  On November 12, 1977 we were truly married at St. Justin's Catholic Church in Hartford.

Another Secret Helped us make 38 years: 

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